How to Use a Vibrator for The First Time: Get Better Orgasms

• Turn on the vibrator and test-run it

After learning what the vibrator is designed to do, it’s time to test run it. The purpose of doing this is to know if the vibrator works well. Is everything working normally based on what’s inside the manual? You should know the answer to that question after testing it.

Test different settings and speed according to what you’ve just read in the manual. Do they work fine? Are there some problems?

If you have issues that weren’t specified in the manual, it means the vibrator isn’t a good one. You may want to get a replacement or a refund from the merchant. Continue testing the vibrator until you’ve tested everything.

You can move on to the next phase if there aren’t any problems with the vibrator.

• Use a lubricant

You shouldn’t use any sex toy without lubes. Lubes are very important when it comes to toys. Lubes bring out the best in toys. You’ll enjoy your new toy when you use lubricant.

I’m referring to a personal lubricant here. Some people use body lotions or creams and call them lube. Sorry, those aren’t lubricants. You need real personal lubes.

There are two types of lubricant: water and silicone-based lubes.

Because most vibrators are made of silicone, you can’t use a silicone-based lube with them. It’s highly recommended that you get a water-based lube for your new sex toy. You can use them with almost any sex toy. And they are generally safe for the body.

• Set the mood

You’ve tested your new vibrator. I’ll assume that it works well. You’ve poured some lube on it. It’s time to move to the next phase: You need to set the mood.

Don’t just start playing with yourself immediately. You want to spend some time with yourself. You need privacy. The door should be locked. What if the person next door opens the door without notice? You don’t want to be caught off-guard.

The windows should be closed. Nobody should be able to see anything through it. Getting caught playing with yourself can be awkward.

You need to feel safe in your mind. Feel relaxed. Put away objects that could distract you.

• Rub on your clitoris

The clit is an organ made just for fun. It’s the best place to start using your new toy. Touch the clit!

When people speak about the clit, they often refer to the little nub that protrudes at the top of the labia. The clitoris extends beyond that. The clit goes deep into the vagina. It extends along the two shafts at either side of the vagina.

Start by rubbing the vibrator on the clitoris. Make it go up and down. Make sure your mind is well relaxed as you do this.

• Start slow

Don’t rush. You need to start slow when you’re using a new toy you haven’t used before. You didn’t start walking by running. You started by taking one step at a time, walking very slowly. The same logic applies to vibrators too.

Ensure that the vibrator itself is working at a lower power setting. The speed should be the slowest. Even though I’ve bought and used lots of sex toys, I still start slow when I use a new toy I just got. That’s how I learn it and teach my body to get used to the new toy.

Increase the speed and pace as your body gets used to the new toy. Slowly, your body will start to feel the excitement the vibrator offers. You’ll start to love every move you make with the vibrator.

• Do Foreplay

You should be using one hand to operate the dildo. The other hand shouldn’t be idle. Use it for foreplay!

Use it to play with your nipples. Use it to rub your body. Use it to touch other sensitive parts of your vagina. As you do these, every part of your body will start to react to it.

Foreplay is key to building up sexual tension. It should also be part of self-play. If your partner is controlling the vibrator, ask he/she to use the other hand to play with your body.

Ask your partner to talk some dirty to you. Vibrators are the coolest tools I know for getting better orgasms. But they work more effectively when you add some form of foreplay too.

• Explore penetration

If the vibrator can go into the vagina, insert it there. Most vibrators are made of silicone materials which are considered safe for the body. They won’t cause any harm when you insert them into the vagina. When you do insert it, you only have to make sure that you wash the vibrator with antibacterial soap and water after.

Most vibrators can go into the vagina. After you’ve played with the clit for some time, the next step is to penetrate a little bit with the vibrator. If you have a dildo vibrator, for example, it will stimulate every inch of the vagina.

• Try different settings

I’m sure you’ve become familiarized with the vibrators’ different settings from reading the manual and test-running it. Now is the time to try all those settings you discovered back then.

The vibrator should come with different speeds and vibrations for you to play with. Try each combination and see how it feels. Maybe by now, you’ve already orgasm, or you are about to do that.

You can pause a bit to learn more about the vibrator. The first time you use the vibrator is to learn about it, how it works and the things you can and can’t do with it. You want to know the limitation of the vibrator and the kind of excitement it could give you. So, hold off orgasm and try different settings.

• Touch the sensitive parts of the vagina

As you penetrate with the vibrator, you’ll feel that some parts are extremely sensitive. They make you moan when they are touched. Focus more on these parts. Play around these parts to see if you can get different sensations from them. Try different speed and vibration settings on the most sensitive parts inside your vagina.

Go deep as long as the vibrator can go. And don’t forget to come back to the clitoris. The clitoris is one of the most sensitive parts of the vagina. Try different settings available on the vibrator on the clit.